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Why do some girls get bullied?

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Unfortunately, there are many reasons a girl may be bullied. These include the following:

  • Being “different” in some way
  • Being either overweight or very skinny
  • Going through puberty earlier or later than other girls
  • Having or doing things that the bully is jealous of
  • Being richer or poorer than the person who bullies
  • Seeming like someone who won’t fight back
  • Having an illness or disability
  • Having low self-esteem
  • Having a food allergy
  • Being new to a school
  • Being gay or thought to be gay
  • Not having many friends or seen as hard to get along with
  • Being seen as not very smart or as much smarter than others

Here are some stories of girls being bullied:

Amy was insulted because of the clothes she wore. Amy was too shy to answer her bully. Her shyness may be why the bully chose to pick on her.

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Keisha didn’t have a lot of friends, but she had a good friend who was a guy. A bunch of girls told people she had sex with him, which wasn’t true.

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Fatima wore a hijab (Muslim headscarf) to class. There were not a lot of Muslim kids in her school, and other kids laughed at her.

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Whatever the reason, bullying is always wrong. No one deserves to be treated badly. Still, it can be hard to speak up against a bully. Girls sometimes think that reporting a bully is not cool. But protecting yourself and others is important and shows great strength. You can learn ways to deal with bullies and ways to prevent bullying at your school.

If you are being bullied because of your race, religion, sexual orientation, disability, or certain other categories, special laws may protect you. If you think this is happening, you might work with an adult to learn more about bullying and the law.

Bullying because of sexual orientation

Your sexual orientation is what gender you are attracted to. People who are gay may face a greater risk of being bullied. A recent study asked thousands of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) students about bullying. More than 8 out of 10 said they were bullied with words in the past year. And more than 6 out of 10 said they had not felt safe in school.

If you are being bullied because of your sexual orientation, reach out to an adult you trust. You can visit The Trevor Project or call 866-488-7386 for help. You also can find groups in your community that support LGBT kids, teens, and young adults, such as Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG).

Every person deserves to feel safe and supported. If you are suffering because of bullying, don’t give up. In the video below, President Obama shares a message of hope after the tragic bullying of some gay students. Things can get better!

 

Content last reviewed April 15,2014
Page last updated September 30, 2014

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